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Written by Paul
Dr Paul Manktelow is a vet who’s worked for almost 20 years on the front line in some of the UK’s busiest veterinary hospitals. As Chief Vet in the Charity Sector, he leads a team of vets and nurses that treat thousands of pets every year. Paul also appears regularly in the media as a TV and radio presenter, writer, public speaker and podcast producer.
It’s natural to think of pets as family, but the healthiest relationships balance affection with boundaries. Meeting your pet’s species-specific needs is the best way to keep them happy and secure.
Here are five practical ways to show love while caring for them as animals:
1. Set Clear Routines
Pets thrive on predictability. Regular feeding, exercise, and rest schedules help reduce anxiety.
2. Respect Their Species-Specific Needs
Dogs need walks and socialisation; cats need space and opportunities to hunt, climb, and hide.
3. Avoid Over-Indulgence
Extra treats, constant affection, or blurring household boundaries can create stress and behavioural issues.
4. Provide Mental Enrichment
Puzzle feeders, training sessions, and scent games help keep pets stimulated and fulfilled.
5. Remember That Boundaries Are Love
Just as children need structure, pets need boundaries. Saying “no” when appropriate supports their welfare.
Healthy Relationships Build Better Bonds
Loving your pet doesn’t mean treating them like a child. It means respecting their needs as an animal and creating an environment where they feel safe and understood.
Hear More on the Podcast
To dive deeper into this topic, listen to the latest episode of The Consult Room podcast: “Do We Love Our Pets Too Much? The Hidden Cost of the Pet Parent Era”.
A strong bond is built not on indulgence, but on trust, consistency, and care that puts the pet’s welfare first.
